By Janet Berliner
My best student sent me a holiday card and added the words, “Writing is hard.”
I wrote back, “Who promised easy?”
Then I thought about it. A lot.
Writing is hard. Being published is almost impossible. Making a living out of words is about as close as you can get to a fool’s dream. So, why try?
In 1936, the great Oscar Hammerstein II wrote: “Fish gotta swim, birds gotta fly, I gotta love one man till I die.” Somehow I’m sure he won’t roll over in his grave if I paraphrase as follows, “I gotta love those tales till I die,” because either way it’s about love.
And so we write–in closets, in journals, for hire and on spec. Okay you say. What’s new about that? What’s new, I think, is that we forget what we could be doing –what most of the world does–working 9 to 5 in a job we detest while praying there won’t be cutbacks.
I’m saying that, in doing what we passionately love, we’ve been given a gift that truly keeps on giving, and too often we forget how damn lucky we are.
Which too-lengthy sentence provides me with a segue for the other thing I want to talk about: The season of gifting.
Realizing, as most of have, that we spend a lot of money at this time of year, not only on presents, but on cards and wrapping, I long ago changed paths. Children and best friends still get gifts from me, but overall I send contributions to Childreach - Plan International, a children’s charity I’ve supported for many years. The money goes directly to the children and the villages in the country of my choice. I have two African foster children whom I’ve supported monthly for fifteen years. Their letters, photos, and growth have given me far more than I gave them. For $22 a month, I help provide meds and schooling, mosquito nets and toilets.
At Christmas and other gift-giving times, I send $10 donations for mosquito netting. $10 protects one family from malaria, the biggest killer along with AIDS. Childreach sends a (pretty) card to the person whose name was put on the donation, and I have a triple winner: I feel good, Childreach can provide more help, the recipient feels good.
My daughter has adopted two glorious Chinese daughters, so I do the same with Half The Sky. That’s what she wants for birthdays and anniversaries.
Think about it.
I hope you had a happy holiday and that the New Year brings you and yours good health and productivity.

9 Comments, Comment or Ping
Richard Steinberg
The merriest of holidays, Beautiful Gypsy. You make the year - especially this last one - liveable by being in it.
The Believer
Dec 26th, 2007
Thomas "Sully" Sullivan
Yea, verily, the cure for everything is turning outward. Don’t give until it hurts, give until it stops hurting…
Thanks, Janet.
– Sully
Dec 26th, 2007
Janet Berliner
Thank you, Believer. Yeah, verily, Sully. That’s how it all began for me.
I was hurt to the depths of my soul and decided that adopting a child would be the only possible salve. –J.
Dec 26th, 2007
Frank Wydra
Hey, Janet, what a wonderful way to give. Only you…
Frank
Dec 26th, 2007
RCJ
Janet,
Beautiful sentiments from a beautiful heart.
RCJ
Dec 26th, 2007
Janet Berliner
Thanks Frank, RCJ. It’s a feel-good thing. –J.
Dec 26th, 2007
Dave Wilson
Nothing makes one appreciate “having” more than sharing…that’s for certain. Another one to keep us thinking, Janet…thanks.
Dave
Dec 26th, 2007
Janet Berliner
Dave: I remind myself that one pizza = one family mosquito net. That makes it easy. –J.
Dec 27th, 2007
Lisa at Plan USA
Thank you for writing about our Gifts of Hope program. First-hand stories like yours help spread the word about these great alternatives to traditional gifts.
Jan 9th, 2008
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